A healthy relationship should be based on mutual respect, trust and commitment to each other's dreams, goals and aspirations. Before you get committed to any man, you need to work on yourself esteem and attitude.
Be very secure in yourself . Love who you are and what you stand for. if you feel a need to prove something to your man; to show that you are someone special, or yet, that you are 'better' than him, then you are competing with him.
To make your relationship work, you should complement each other. Your strength should help him in the area of weakness.
In order to build yourself esteem, you need to face and deal with past rejections, failures and hurt you experienced in business, career or in relationships, your past may still be hurting you.Stand up to all the mistake you made, admit you missed it. Confess your sins. charge your ways. Received God's forgiveness, then forgive your self. You must face the things that shame you. These are things that make you feel inadequate, weak and unable to achieve anything of meanigful significance in life.
This is why you have developed a spirit of competition, where you always need to prove yourself to everybody in your life thereby destroying quality relationship. you always try to compensate for your imagined and real shortcomings.
You dont need to prove anything to the you love to be accepted by him. Be yourself. If you always need to prove something to feel accepted and loved, you are in an unhealthy relationship. Your ideal partner should always make you feel capable, accomplished and energized no matter what your background, experience or present situation in life is.
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