WHEN A WOMAN HAS A MAN WHO TAKES CARE OF HER

 When a woman has a man who takes care of her physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually, that's when you get the best version out of her. And when you get the best version of her, she's going to contribute to your growth because she now has a solid man in her life who she knows she can depend on, and she's no longer in survival mode. She can now flourish in her feminity and she will be your backbone. 

But if you're going to do wrong to her, just know that a woman becomes a true reflection of how you treat her. And if you don't like how she's acting, look at how you're treating her. You taking care of her helps her take care of you. 

A man can think he has her on lock while laying next to her every night but her mind is elsewhere. And it's not like she didn't try, she gave her all in the relationship and was very patient with you. She verbalized what she wasn't happy about and you refused to work on it. She was sticking around because of that little bit of hope that you might change and do better. 

But best believe she already checked out mentally, and once you lose her mind, the body soon follows.  Women leave mentally before they leave physically.

To your continuous growth and wellness.

SIGNS YOU'RE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER:

 SIGNS YOU'RE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER:

1. You tell each other deep, dark secrets.

2. Arguments do not turn disrespect or bitterness.

3. You have undeniable chemistry (including sex attraction!)

4. You do not have to pretend to be someone. You are not when you are together.

5. You feel like they make you a better person.

6. You get the feeling you have known them longer than you have.

7. When you think of home, you think of each other.

8. You have developed a sense of mutual respect to each other.

9. Jealousy is not an issue for either of you.

10. Your relationship is full of happiness and laughter.

11. Neither of you questions, “are we meant for each other”

12. You push each other to become better people.

HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

 HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

1. ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG 

Many grown ups are not humble enough to admit to their fault. Will you mess up your love just because of your pride? 

2. EXPLAIN WHY YOU DID WHAT YOU DID 

Give the background sequence of events that led to you being on the wrong. A blank apology doesn't address the issue

3. HEAR  FROM YOUR PARTNER HOW HE/SHE FEELS 

Allow your partner to vent, cry, shout, and tell you how much your actions/words pain him/her. Emotions and hurt shouldn't be hidden if true reconcilition and healing is to occur. This also shows you care for your partner's feelings

4. SAY SORRY 

Let your partner hear you say those words, 'I am sorry, please forgive me'

5. COMMIT TO NOT DOING IT AGAIN 

Say you won't repeat the mistake again and mean it.  An apology is empty if it's not sincere

6. HEAR FROM YOUR PARTNER IF YOU ARE FORGIVEN 

Get to hear your partner tell you 'I forgive you'. It has to be official

7.  THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR FORGIVING YOU

Appreciate the goodness of your partner's heart to forgive you. It takes love to overlook your wrong, don't take that for granted

8. AGREE ON A PLAN  TO KEEP  THE WRONG FROM BEING REPEATED

This is why it is important to know the history that led to you doing or saying wrong; you two get to agree on what to do to prevent it from happening again

9. SEAL  IT WITH A KISS 

Kiss as soon you are given an official forgiveness. Now that your partner has forgiven you, your lips will be well-received

10. MAKE LOVE 

Your spouse's heart feels safe because you care, you feel pardoned; make passionate love to bring you two even closer. Make-up sex

11. DO SOMETHING SWEET 

Go out of your way to make your partner smile: leave a love note under the pillow, buy her flowers or a gift, cook his favourite meal, take a photo of the both you happy and frame it, cater to each other

12. TAKE  YOUR PARTNER OUT ON A DATE 

Go out on a romantic and memorable date. Look into each other's eyes, melt each other's hearts, dress up and go out for a night to remember

13. AFFIRM EACH OTHER'S LOVE 

Tell each other how much you love and mean to each other, leave no doubt about your love, show that you two still have love, 'you're still the one that I love'

14. ACTUALLY CHANGE 

The best kind of sorry is when you actually change. Let your partner see a new you

15. DON'T KEEP A RECORD OF WRONGS 

Don't keep reminding each other of your wrongs, move past the mistakes

BEST TIME TO MAKE LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE!!

 BEST TIME TO MAKE LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE

Yes, you should make love anytime you both want to but here are strategic times you don't want to miss and means the whole world to your spouse. Make your spouse feel super special during this period, enjoy love making like never before and help them overcome sexual temptation out there and stick to you -their honey pot, sweet sugar pie and paradise zone forever *winks*.

1. Before they travel.

2. After they return from travelling.

3. Second to fourth days before and after menstruation for those with regular period and wants love making without the drama of pregnancy, condom, pills or injection.

4. Ovulation period for those seeking babies.

5. All through 9 months pregnancy day in, day out as your power can carry. (Don't vomit on uncle during the first trimester sha).

6. When they are not happy.

7. When they feel so lonely or depressed.

8. On a cold rainy night.

9. Early harmattan morning.

10. During celebration e.g new job, business breakthrough, promotion, award of contract, etc.

11. When you are looking super sexy and he can't take his eyes off you.

12. When you are super charming and she is prowling all over you. 

13. After settling your "quarrel".

Alright, there you go baby, go rock your lover's bed. Here you go uncle, start doing some press up and weight lifts, you need some energy to do your job during this period, laughs.

Seriously, there is no time limit or barrier to anytime you want to make love to your spouse.

Follow your schedule, rhythm passion, time table or whatever. 

Don't neglect those special moments either, love making during those periods are more meaningful, deep and affectionate but each family differs. Just do what works for you.

I want you to experience uninterrupted bliss, joy and peace in every way you can in your marriage.

Keep the ball rolling!

Singles, this is STRICTLY FOR THE MARRIED, don't practice!

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

 HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

Have you ever hoped to love someone and marry them, only for them to reject and maybe even choose someone else besides you.

So how do you deal with rejection?

1. Know your worth. Your worth is not determined by one human being or a few human beings but by God your Creator

2. Know that it is better to be with someone who hundred percent wants to be with you than someone who has to be forced to stay in your life

3. Know that not everyone in this life will celebrate you, see your worth, identify with your purpose or understand you

4. Analyze if you play a role in people rejecting you: Are you immature, desperate, mean, pushy, difficult, self centered or insulting?

5. Know that there is someone who longs to accept you and love you and one day you two will meet

6. Rejection shouldn't lead you to having a low self esteem. Say OK and carry on with life

7. Do not let rejection lead to anger or hate

8. Know that rejection can be a blessing in disguise when the person you have grown fond of is wrong for you

9. Know that many great people were rejected: Joseph, David, Paul were rejected and did great things; even Jesus 

10. Know that the world doesn't end because one person didn't choose you

11. Know that you can only commit to one person for marriage, rejection keeps you available for the right person who is soon coming

11 VALUABLE PIECES OF ADVICE LIFE WILL TEACH YOU!!!

 11 Valuable pieces of advice Life Will teach you

1.. Give, but don't let others take advantage of you.

2.. Love, but protect your heart from being hurt.

3.. If your absence doesn't affect someone, then your presence never truly mattered to them.

4.. Listen, but don't forget to express your thoughts and opinions.

5.. Trust someone completely and you'll either gain a lifelong companion or a valuable lesson.

6.. Communication is essential for a relationship, and respect is vital for love. Trust is the foundation to keep going.

7.. It's funny how people start wanting to be with you when you find happiness on your own.

8.. Being unique is better than striving for perfection.

9... High standards shield you from negative experiences.

10.. If someone doesn't show the same enthusiasm to talk to you, it's better to stop talking to avoid hurting yourself further.

11.. Hurting someone takes only seconds, but repairing the damage can take years. Treasure those who love you.

IGNITE THE ROMANCE IN YOUR MARRIAGE!!!

Ignite The Romance In Your Marriage!!!

Some couples only live together as a room mate, which is totally bad. All the wife does is just to cook, take care of house etc, all the husband does is to provide for the house, acts like the boss of house and asks for sex whenever he feels like. 

Some even only ask for sex from their wife when they feel like it's time to have another baby and women thought it is a taboo to ask their husbands for sex when they feel horny, whereas, some are shy to do so.

Hmmm!! In some Marriages, there is nothing like gisting, romancing, going on date, attending events together, praying together, studying the word together apart from the general family retreat. This has led many women to the arms of strange men, although that is not an excuse to commit adultery. 

Spoil each other with romance. Write love letters to your spouse and put it in his or her pocket or handbag 😉, call your spouse lovely names, tease them, touch your spouse as you like don't wait till during sex alone before you can feel your spouse skin

Despite your busy schedule, find time to send romantic text to your spouse, touch your spouse in a romantic way, sing or play love songs to your partner and dance together in your bedroom, don't do only Missionary style alone, we have varieties of sex styles that are mind blowing. Stop being boring during sex.

Don't be too serious with your Spouse, you're not at the war front now 😄.

Marriage is sweet😋. Let your spouse be your best friend.

Let me rest my case for now.

Seeing Marriages blossoming and Children being raised in a Godly atmosphere is my utmost desire.

IF HE OR SHE IS NOT CHOICE PLEASE:::

 If She Is Not Your Choice Please Don't Undress Her & Impregnate Her. Don't Mess Up With Her Emotions & Dump Her After Sleeping With Her. The Same Advice Goes To You Ladies Also, If He Doesn't Have The Characteristics You Look For In A Man, Release Him. Don't Keep Withdrawing Money From Him & Using Him To Meet Your Needs When You Know Very Well That You Aren't Interested In Him.

RELATIONSHIP IN TRUTH AND WISDOM

 RELATIONSHIP NUGGETS...✍🏾

1. No man wants a woman who is accessible to every man.

2. You will reach the age where you can easily tell that the relationship is not going to work just by the conversation.

3. If you have to beg someone to do the bare minimum for you and if you have to keep telling them how you deserved to be treated better then for goodness sake. LEAVE. It's not worth your peace.

4. Don’t ignore the red flags you see at the beginning. The red flags you ignore trying to see the good in people WILL cost you later.

5. Just because a person keeps you around doesn’t mean they love you; remember, people, buy cats just to get rid of rats.

6. If SEX is all you are about in a relationship, then it means you are actually empty. A healthy relationship is about purpose! Sharing visions and values together.

7. In life, you need to learn to stop opening doors for toxic people and giving them room in your mind, and calling it "seeking closure!" You're delaying your healing process.

8. Avoid the damaged, the unhappy, and the unlucky.

9. Anger opens the mouth and shuts the mind.

10. As a woman, understand that men will say and do anything to sleep with you. Look at the actions, don’t be blinded by words. Anyone can talk a good game, but it takes a real ball player to play one.

FACT ABOUT SHY PEOPLE

 FACT ABOUT SHY PEOPLE

1.  They can talk and chat openly even crack jokes with you on social media but in real life they are ice😩

2.  They fit pass you for road simply because of their shyness🙍🏻‍♀️. They can stay indoors for weeks without minding🤦‍♀️

3.  Very calculative, clingy, little touch of hot temper, romantic with one they love. They hardly fall in love but once they fall, it's over because they don't joke with that person😘

4.  They hardly cheat💯. Before you see them, dem don see you(so sensitive). They can read people's mind before you could say it, they rarely have friends and associate in any activities, always not comfortable staying in a place full of people and always like staying alone👌🏽.

5.  They hardly talk in the midst of people but talkative when they are with their lovely one.

People usually sees them as too proud people but they are not.

6.  They can endure alot but don't push them or take them for granted because once they decide🤔, you have lost them kpatakpata✌🏽.

7.  They are too emotional😥. They don't easily forget bad things someone did to them🌝.

8.  They hardly share their problems to anybody or ask people for assistance no matter what they are passing through😒

9.  You won't easily observe the kind of person untill you get closer to them🤗

They are unpredictable and stubborn😎

If you're in this table, gather here let's know ourselves.

😁😁😁😁

LOVE IS THE SIMPLE THINGS

 LOVE IS THE SIMPLE THINGS

1. Love is making the bed together when you wake up in the morning

2. Love is cleaning each other's ears with earbuds when you two are chilling, what a relaxing feeling

3. Love is him helping her decide which clothes to wear, her helping to straighten his tie

4. Love is doing shopping together as you bump into friends and say hello to the cashier at the supermarket 

5. Love is she shaving his facial hair, him helping to unstrap her bra and zip on her dress

6. Love is waiting for each other so that you eat as a family 

7. Love is tickling the baby together, teamwork parenting 

8. Love is having a pillow fight, competing against each other, choosing opposing teams as you watch a sports game, nicely bullying and teasing each other 

9. Love is filling a crossword puzzle together, playing indoor games 

10. Love is him blowing away the eyelash that has entered her eye and causing her irritation, her wiping the stain on his shirt 

11. Love is looking at old photos together

12. Love is sending each other funny, inspiring or sweet messages, articles and videos 

13. Love is asking her to slow dance when you're just you two in the house

14. Love is praying together

15. Love is taking walks together, jogging together or cycling together 

16. Love is visiting your parents as a couple 

17. Love is listening to good music together whether as you drive, or at home 

18. Love is hearing the silly stories from your children or sharing great conversations with them as a couple. Giving them amazing memories 

19. Love is covering each other with a blanket when the other is too sleepy and dozes off

20. Love is when your spouse is your best friend

Some stress and worry themselves to impress with extravagance and expensive things, but love is seen in the small every day miracles, wonders and moments that happen when a man and a woman trust each other and enjoy each 

LADIES

 Ladies.

Soul mates are for real and believe me there is someone who is made just for you 💏 and for each one of us… just like a perfect key that fits a lock🔒.

But there are no shortcuts to finding your soul mate. You need to be patient ✨🌙because you will meet your soul mate only when you are destined to 💘🥰.

There will be a perfect day and time which will lead you right into the arms of that person who is destined to be your companion for life😘.

When the right time comes you will be drawn to each other just like magnets and you will unite in a timeless bond of

love and passion till eternity ❤.

Your soul mate won’t be someone who is perfect and flawless but someone who will change your life completely to take it to another level of bliss and fulfillment 😍.

Someone who is just perfect for you.

 I pray that every loyal, loving woman reading this finally encounters that "one" true man that will love you so much you will forget you were ever mistreated and your heart was ever broken before....🥰💘

❤️❤️❤️❤️🔐🫂

MISTAKES YOU MUST AVOID IN YOUR "DATING"

1.  Avoid the mistake of not having a plan and goal for your relationship, let your relationship have a purpose.

2. You must avoid being a Liability, no matter how rich and generous your partner is, try to give. Don't be the only one receiving.

 3. Don't ever make the mistake of sharing all your family secrets especially the confidential ones.

4. Don't ever condemn anyone or spoil the image of anyone in your family before your partner. Cherish the family you are from, good or bad, rich or poor, respect your family.

5. Don't be anxious to know everything about him, family, or friends, let it come gradually in love.

6.. Don't play smart, trying to make secret calls, secret chat et c.he is wise the same way you think you are wise. Be Open.

7. Be observant, know what he likes and what he hates.

8. Respect and love his family and friends

9. Don't make the mistake of doing wife duties or act above who you are to please him, be real to him and yourself.

10. Contribute to the growth of the relationship, have something "say" 

11. Run if you observe your partner is someone that doesn't need others' opinion, is stingy, and can't control anger, if he slaps you, treats you like trash,  Run 4 Your Life.

12. Have respect for yourself, don't make him see you like someone begging for love, let your No to anything you believe is truth be No. Don't ever make foolish sacrifices you will regret.

AVOID THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

 AVOID THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP!

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

1. You should avoid a relationship that is based on sex alone. It has no future. If all you do is to sleep with each other instead of discussing things that will benefit your life then that relationship is a waste of time and destiny.

U don't believe? Argue with ur keyboard 

2. Avoid any relationship that has no direction, purpose or aim. me shall get directions

3. Avoid any relationship that doesn't add any positive impact on your life. girls go think say I dey talk about money nooo

4. Run away from any relationship that gives you more sorrows than joy. yes I know is difficult but time heals

5. Run away from any relationship that makes you cry or gives you more tears and cry than laughter. no be onions u dey peal everyday why tearing all the time

6. Do not stay in a relationship where you love someone but the person makes you unhappy many times. some couples bully each other and one that is being bullied will want to stay due to some certain benefits hell no walk away

7. When you see signs that a relationship can't work, there is me no like to dey feel less no need remaining into it. Flee from it. Don't keep managing.

8. Avoid any relationship where you find yourself struggling to love your partner. them no dey force relationship 

9. Avoid any relationship where you are caged or restricted from your rights. No relationship should restrict you from your rights. I wonder ooo

10. Avoid any relationship that will keep you far away from God. this one is the last and most important one , love is beautiful but also remember that no love is better than loving God the ever merciful

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION:::

 HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

Have you ever hoped to love someone and marry them, only for them to reject and maybe even choose someone else besides you.

So how do you deal with rejection?

1. Know your worth. Your worth is not determined by one human being or a few human beings but by God your Creator

2. Know that it is better to be with someone who hundred percent wants to be with you than someone who has to be forced to stay in your life

3. Know that not everyone in this life will celebrate you, see your worth, identify with your purpose or understand you

4. Analyze if you play a role in people rejecting you: Are you immature, desperate, mean, pushy, difficult, self centered or insulting?

5. Know that there is someone who longs to accept you and love you and one day you two will meet

6. Rejection shouldn't lead you to having a low self esteem. Say OK and carry on with life

7. Do not let rejection lead to anger or hate

8. Know that rejection can be a blessing in disguise when the person you have grown fond of is wrong for you

9. Know that many great people were rejected: Joseph, prophet Muhammad, were rejected and did great things; even Jesus 

10. Know that the world doesn't end because one person didn't choose you

11. Know that you can only commit to one person for marriage, rejection keeps you available for the right person who is soon coming

NEVER FORCE A RELATIONSHIP

 Never force a relationship.

Sometimes it's better to move on, than to hold on to a person who doesn't understand who you truly are. Unfortunately there will be times where your absence will teach you what your presence cannot.

You need to stop breaking your own heart in trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn't meant to work to begin with. 

You can't force someone to genuinely care about you. 

You can't force someone to be faithful to you.

You can't force someone to be the person you need them to be.

The truth is, sometimes the person you want the most is the same person you would be best without.

You have got to understand some things are meant to come into your life, just not meant to stay.

Everything that you do to show love, you have to becareful, not to lose yourself by trying to fix what should never been there in the first place. You can't get the relationship you need from someone who's not ready to reciprocate the love you give to them.

I know it's hard when you meet someone and your heart feels, that's the person you could spend an eternity with, and you start to accept that they are not that person you thought they needed to be.

And no matter how many times you cry yourself to sleep at night, you will eventually heal from your previous relationship and find the one you have always longed for. Your future will now bring an understanding of why things didn't work out in your previous relationships.💘💐💘

One thing I have learned throughout the years, is “It is better to be single than to be in a relationship settling for less.”🥀🍇🥀

If they see you as an option, then they don't deserve to be a priority in your life.🤝🌙✨

Take my advice and never chase someone who's not chasing you.✨🥰🥰

STAYING IN RELATIONSHIP JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE SOMEONE IS NOT WORTH IT.

 Staying a relationship JUST because you love someone is not worth it. 

Love is NOT all you need. Respect is what you need. 

Time is what you need. Communication is what you need.

Reassurance is what you need. Happiness is what you need. 

A best friend is what you need.

MEN LISTEN UP👂👂👇👇

 MEN LISTEN UP👂👂👇👇

Two things you must not beg from any woman. 

1. A WOMAN'S ATTENTION. If a woman really loves you and she wants you in her life, she will freely give you her love and her attention, but if you see that she's not giving you attention, it simply means that you are not her priority. There is somebody else that she's giving that attention. So, the earlier you know your place the better for you.

2. HER BODY. As long as she's not a virgin, she must freely give you her body unless she tells you that she's a virgin maybe she has covenant with God that she's going to keep herself till after marriage, please respect that. That is one of the ways to show that you love her l. Respect her opinion. But as long as she's not a virgin, if she refuses to give her body to you, she's giving it to other guys.

Otherwise, you must run because she doesn't love you.

If a woman really loves you it should come naturally, but once it's not coming naturally that you have to beg for it each time you want to have it, then know that you will continue to beg all the days of your life. So, don't let it start from the beginning.

A REAL MAN:::::

 A real man.

What's sad about this picture is that most women will go their entire lifetime and never experience the meaning of actual true love. 

It's even slightly depressing to think that most people will never understand how powerful this picture actually is. 

This gentleman is a prime example of how men should be treating their partner with everyday that passes. 

We unfortunately live in a generation with men who have no idea what it takes to be a real man. 

Let me give you a couple examples of a real man ...... 

A real man asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer. 

A real man respects your boundaries and never forces you to anything you're not ready to do. 

He makes time for you, and takes that time to learn and understand who you are as a person. 

A real man consistently shows you the definition of effort with every day that passes.

He will call you randomly throughout the day just to check on you and your mental health. 

A real man is undeniably committed to you and looks for new ways to fall in love with you with every day that passes. 

He makes protecting your heart a number one priority.

A real man never makes permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.

He never confuses you on where you stand in his life.

A real man apologizes when he is wrong and stays true to his character. 

He doesn't mind hurting other people's feeling to protect yours.

A real man gives you affection without sexual expectation. 

A real man refuses to entertain any women that isn't you. 

He has genuine intentions with you from day one and shows you how it truly feels to be a priority rather an option. 

A real man will help you heal from the trauma that nobody apologized for.

A real man values you and would never put themselves in a position to lose you. 

Take my advice and wait for the man that never let's you fall asleep at night questioning your own self worth. 

🙏

SEX AND FEELINGS IN RELATIONSHIP

 SEX AND FEELINGS

A man can have sex with a lady and still don't have any feelings for her, most men only need space to have sex but majority of women need reason to have sex.

90% of woman cannot have sex without feelings, A man can travel for eight hours just to have sex with a female and yet, not love her or even have any feelings for her.  

Sex makes men act as if they are in love while they are not!! What they feel is lust, what they feel is what they see which is curves and a huge behind, go through a lady's silky skin thigh for a 5 minutes or less, ejaculate and forget.

The eight hours travel sacrifice, gifts bought, hotel paid for and other expenses may seem to be coming from true love but they were all in the sacrifice for sex and nothing more.

The foolish thing is this, the majority of women would jump up inside them and conclude that this is the art of true love. So many woman are bought and blinded by materialistic things, yet miss the small little gestures that money cannot buy. 

Sex is not an act of commitment. So many Men and women still leave their partners on their beds and start thinking of the next woman or man to sleep with. The satisfaction that comes from sex dies in minutes.

It is in the nature of Lions to go miles to hunt. The same with men. A man who can afford the expenses of flying from the UK to Nigeria for sex would do it as if he would never turn to another woman for sex.

Sex drives men to do what seems like the impossible and such turns women around and they start acting weird. Sex and love are not on the same page even in the dictionary.

People can abandon their gold mines and dig the grave for sex. Most young men do terrible things just to have the resources to keep many girls in their life.

You may think they are working hard to live well in the future but they are just living for fun and that is all. Students are now living together like husbands and wives, and our society calls it love.

WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP 😘?

 WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP 😘?

Many people do not know the meaning of relationship or read different meanings to that word.

A RELATIONSHIP is not about having a handsome boyfriend or having a beautiful girlfriend.

It’s not about looking for a perfect person because there isn’t any perfect person on earth.

It’s not about looking for a fair complexion or a rich person.

Having a lot of money doesn’t mean that one has too much pure love

MONEY 💰 CAN’T BUY LOVE. 😍

A relationship is about finding someone who respects you.

Who cares about you in anyway he/she can afford.

Who understands you.

Who is proud of having you.

Who appreciates you the way you are .

Who loves you the way you are.

Who is faithful to you.

Who knows how to comfort you.

Who is supportive to you or in everything you are trying to do.

Who knows how to encourage

you to be your best.

Who would accept the worst of you.

Forgive you

And who will go through everything without giving up on u.

Such people are very rare to find these days.

It takes God himself to bring you such person just like He did for Adam.

But your relationship with God will be a major determinant in finding such person.💐🤝💐

If you have got such person already just keep that person.

Handle him or her with care.🙊💕✨

Be honest & contented with that person and don't do anything to hurt or let down that special person.🥀🌙🥀

Remember, Relationship is a full time commitment/sacrifice and you must be willing to pay.💕✨✨

SÊX IS ABOUT 9 THINGS...

 SÊX IS ABOUT 9 THINGS...

1. CONSENT

You should never force your spouse into having sex. Both of you need to consent to it each time even as a married couple. Don't be the person who offends your spouse and demands sex when your spouse is hurting.

2. CONSCIENCE

Whatever sexual position you two do, whatever location where you two have sex; both your conscience should be OK with it. Don't force your spouse to do things that disturb the conscience.

3. MUTUAL ENJOYMENT

It is not just about your sexual pleasure, both of you have to enjoy it. As your spouse makes you feel good, make him/her feel good too.

4. FOREPLAY

Foreplay is not just the touching, licking and rubbing before intercourse; but also treating each other special when sex is not the agenda. This makes your spouse feel your good treatment is not a tactic to get sex, but genuine love.

5. HINDPLAY

Hindplay is treating each other special after the climax. This involves cuddles, kind words, prayer, compliments and acts of service.

6. HYGIENE

Sex being an exchange and mixing of body fluids and collision of bodies; maintain good hygiene. Brush your teeth, shower, wash your vagina well, wash your penis well, wash your butt area well to prevent foul smell, change inner wear, keep your finger nails clean, keep the bedroom clean, smell good. This encourages intimacy.

7. CREATIVITY

It is called love making because you are creating. Avoid monotony, create new memories.

8. COMMUNICATION

Communicate how you want your spouse to please you; don't suffer in silence and assume your spouse knows. Make requests how you want it. Communicate when it is painful. Communicate when you are made love too well. Moan to encourage your spouse to do it right.

9. CONNECTION

When love making is done right, you two will connect better and deeper as a couple.

AFTER SEX WHAT NEXT.....MY DEAR IF YOU MISS THIS WRITE UP WHAT WILL YOU TELL YOUR FUTURE......

 AFTER SEX WHAT NEXT.....MY DEAR IF YOU MISS THIS WRITE UP WHAT WILL YOU TELL YOUR FUTURE......

It's possible for any man to ask for sex in a relationship, but is left for you to choose weather to give or not,, as a lady you need to know that sex can't keep a man.. (Sex isn't enough)

NOT ALL MEN NEED SEX

There are two major factors ladies complain about sex in a relationship:

√ After giving him my body he left me..

√ He left because I refused to have sex with him..

NOTE: Both those who gave and those who refused to give are complaining...

( Whats the difference)

Ladies Listen, Sex isn't enough, its not the only thing you can offer a man.

If You Don't Have Anything To Offer A Man Outside Sex, Please remain Single...

A man can't stay with you because his having sex with you....

Relationship is not buying and selling.

There are much to life than Monkey style, Doggy style, Missionary style, Apple n juice style, step pillows style, etc ...

Are you sound intellectually? Spiritually? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally?

Men love intelligent ladies...

Men love ladies with ideas..

Men love respectful ladies...

Men respect ladies that know what domestic work is

Men love and appreciate a woman who is good and excellent in multi-tasking

Men respect and honor ladies that wakes up very early in the morning to make sure that the kitchen is set.

Men respect ladies that keep their eyes at home than those that their eyes are always outside 

Men love bravo ladies

Sex is very cheap these days, anybody can buy it.

You need to build yourself beyond sex.

Leave make-ups and be a productive lady.

Men are looking for ladies with ideas and solution not those who paint their faces with different colours.

*What a man wants is beauty with brain not make ups with boobs or hips. Because all these will fail but what you have upstairs will remain.

Your husband complains because you think that you know it but you don't know it. Just do what your own husband wants and not what men want...

 🚶‍♂️

HOW TO KEEP A WOMAN

 How to Keep a Woman

1. Be humble and practice forgiveness.

If you want to keep your woman, be humble and admit your own mistakes. Ask for forgiveness and be sincere to not repeat your mistakes over and over again. If she commits mistakes, get rid of your pride and be ready to forgive her too.

2. Know and understand her better.

If you want to keep your woman, never make her feel that she’s a stranger to you. Hence, know and understand her deeper. Listen to her heart. Know what she loves and what she hates. Understand what makes her happy or sad. You must be the one who can understand her the most.

3. Be consistently honest.

If you want to keep your woman, make honesty a habit. Don’t lie about your past, present, and future. Honesty is uncommon in this world. A woman whose partner is honest and transparent would rarely suffer from jealousy and insecurity. If you’re an honest person, who would not want to stay with you?

4. Be loyal.

If you want to keep your woman, make her your only one true love. Just like honesty, loyalty will give her confidence and overcome any insecurity in her mind. Loyal men are hard to find these days. If you’re a loyal man, who would not want to have a long-term relationship with you?

5. Treasure her.

If you want to keep your woman, make her feel valued and important. Treat her like a princess or a queen. Keep her like she’s your most precious thing or blessing in this world. Don’t ignore her but give your most precious time and attention to her.

6. Be kind and compassionate.

If you want to keep your woman, feel her joy and suffering. Only by feeling what she feels will you be able to make her happy and comfort her when she’s sad. With kindness and compassion, your common relationship problems and misunderstandings will be easier to solve.

7. Support and empower her.

If you want to keep your woman, help her make her dreams come true. Don’t be a hindrance in reaching her goals in life. Let her grow and achieve her full potential. By giving your support, you can also show how much you love her.

8. Respect and honor her.

If you want to keep your woman, respect her as a woman, a human, and as your one and only partner in a relationship. Don’t forget to appreciate her achievements, whether they are small or big. Value her words, opinions and decisions even they are opposite to yours.

9. Protect her.

If you want to keep your woman, be her hero. Be a chivalrous guy who will keep her away from danger or inconvenience. Be a man who will protect her from harm, whether it’s coming from others, from her, or from you.

10. Trust her.

If you want to keep your woman, trust her and don’t think of her like an unclean woman, especially if you don’t have a proof. Learn how to be calm and manage your own green-eyed monster and other insecurities. Show that you have confidence in her.

11. Be a responsible man.

If you want to keep your woman, be a real man. Learn to love and develop yourself. Don’t waste your time and money on drunkenness and other vices. Instead, build a bright future for her, for your relationship, and your children. Stop being childish – start getting mature and a more grown man.

12. Make a big sacrifice.

If you want to keep your woman, show her that you are selfless. Make her realize that she is your world, your Universe. Show her that you can leave your old world just to be able to live in her world.

13. Be romantic.

If you want to keep your woman, make your love story more interesting and exciting. Give her flowers, always tell her you love her, travel with her, have a nice dinner date with her, and do every romantic thing that comes to your loving and creative mind. Being romantic shows that you are thoughtful and that she’s always on your mind.

14. Love her as a whole.

If you want to keep your woman, don’t just love her physically, but love her totally. Don’t just use her for your physical pleasures but stay with her because her presence completes your heart, spirit, and soul.

15. Don’t give up on her.

If you want to keep your woman, be a persistent man who will fight for your love no matter what. Don’t easily give up when your relationship is in trouble. Don’t break up with her for petty things. Don’t ever utter the word “breakup”. Make her realize that you are serious and determined to have a relationship with her that can last for life.

There is no guarantee that you can keep your woman as long as you want since the final decision for her to stay with you lies in her. You cannot force someone to love you and stay with you for life. However, you can always do something to make her fall in love with you and be with you forever.

8 THINGSS WOMEN ONLY DO WHEN THEY ARE COMPLETELY IN LOVE WITH A MAN

 8 things women only do when they are completely in love with a man

Women tend to be highly secretive about their feelings for men. When a woman is in love with you, you will notice a few changes in her personality. Interestingly, she expects you to identify these signs that she’s deeply in love with you and approach her with a proposal. Sometimes men can just be completely clueless regarding love and romance.

You might assume that a lady is obsessed with you even when she’s not. And, you might think that a girl only sees you as a friend, even though she’s obsessively in love with you. It’s just part of the natural problems that arise with gender differences.

Learning how to determine if she’s honestly in love with you is a skill that every man needs to learn. So how do you find out if she’s deeply in love with you?

Below are some things women do when they are in love.

1. She cares for you like a mother

You would know how much she truly loves you based on how she takes care of you. Her motherly instinct makes her do everything to ensure you do not get sick and stay well. She selflessly and subconsciously does all these things for you because she’s deeply in love with you.

2. She is willing to sacrifice for you

A woman who loves you can sacrifice her own needs for you. A girl cannot just come out and do such things for you without having feelings for you. Women make sacrifices for the person they are in love with.

3. She’s kind and patient

No matter how many headaches you give her, she cannot keep herself from being kind to you. Even if she gets mad at you for being stubborn, at the end of the day, she will soften up and ask how you have been. She is always patient with you because she chooses to see your good side.

4. She forgives you

No matter how many times you hurt her or disappoint her she will always forgive you. She chooses to forget your failures and gives you a lot of second chances. She does not focus on your mistakes and flaws.

5. She does not tolerate your bad behaviour

Despite her love, she will never tolerate your negative behaviour like drinking. It does not matter to her if you are not pleased with her disapproval. What is important to her is that you get rid of those actions or things that can harm you.

6. She encourages and supports you in reaching your dreams

She wants you to reach your dreams because she wants you to be happy. She loves you and wants you to be fulfilled and successful as a person. For this reason, she will always encourage you to pursue your goals, especially during times when you are frustrated with yourself. She will do her best to help and support you all the way.

7. She stays with you in your darkest times

During discouraging times, she’s always there to boost your self-esteem. She believes that you are a great person and you have a lot of capabilities. She won’t leave you just because you are a mess. She will help you see your worth again and get back on your feet.

8. She won’t take you for granted

She will make you feel her true love by appreciating everything you do for her. She does not forget to thank you, even for the little things you do for her. She is sensitive to your needs and feelings, so she does not waste your efforts.

Yes, but when a woman is done it's rarely a surprise. Only willful ignorance would allow a man to call it such.

This! 🎯

Where can I find a woman as mentioned here?

All you need is to have a job and love yourself at the right time she will show up.

Where to do at the right time

I am her, she is me. There are many of us actually, you just have to treat us right.

 Emotions and feelings towards partners are not infinite. It fades out because women (specially) compare themselves to other women, who are more glamorous, and who exist only in fantasies. Soon The best partner for that woman won’t be the best anymore. They will try to find shortcomings if it doesn’t exist, just to self-justify themselves that they were right. It takes a very strong woman to overcome all the above and stand tall and brave next to her partner.8 8

DATE A WOMAN YOU CAN SEE A FUTURE WITH:::

 Date a woman you can see a future with. 

Time and time again I see people dating someone because of their "looks".

 I've experienced too many people over the years that are with someone for all the wrong reasons. 

 You should look at all the qualities they possess as a person. 

 Someones physical appearance plays an extremely small role in the dating world.

 Try and look at her work ethic, the way she treats other people, her bubbly personality, her determined ambition, the way she communicates with you, her immovable confidence, and most importantly... her heart. 

 This will be what raises your children someday.

 Their looks will eventually fade and what you're left with, is a person that you fell deeply in love with because of who she truly is as a partner. 

 You should never be dating someone to pass the time. 

Take my advice and if you dont plan on marrying her, take your hands off another man's future.

13 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR WIFE WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS

 13 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR WIFE WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS

1: LOWER YOUR VOICE

Don't shout at her, she is not your child. You can correct, yes, but why shouting?

2: DO IT IN LOVE

Correction should be done in love. If done in any other way, it turns to criticism and condemnation.

3a: DON'T CRITICIZE

Stop criticizing her, rather correct in love. Most will say it's constructive criticism. But truly, It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.

Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes 

Correction and criticism are never the same

3b: HUSBAND A SAYS

What manner of food is this?

Is this popcorn or fried rice?

how I wish I marry a more sensible wife  with better home training, who can cook better.

HUSBAND B SAYS

sweetheart this rice it too salty and dry unlike the one you did yesterday. I think salt should be reduce any other time because of our health.

Husband A criticized while Husband B corrected his wife in love

STOP CRITICIZING YOUR WIFE

4 PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT

It will be wrong to correct when it's not well done, when you don't praise when it's well done. Form the habit of praising and appreciating your wife for good deeds.

5 DON'T DO IT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN

Avoid correcting your wife in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your wife before your children will make them disrespect her.

6 DON'T CORRECT HER IN THE PUBLIC

Avoid correcting your wife in the public, it does not show you as a gentleman, and will affect her self-esteem.

7 AVOID CORRECTION IN ANGER

Stop correcting your wife in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Real men don't do that.

8 DON'T COMPARE HER WITH ANY OTHER WOMAN

In your thought of correcting her, you might have been comparing her with other women.

"Don't you see what your friend is doing?" Can't you learn from our neighbors wife?" "and so?"

9 AVOID REFERRING TO OLD ISSUES

Avoid referring to issues discussed and settled. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.

10 DON'T ATTACK HER WOMANHOOD

"And you call yourself a woman?, Virtuous women don't behave like this, you better change before I change you!." This is very wrong, don't do it

11 DON'T ATTACK HER DIGNITY

You don't behave like someone with sense, do you think at all? And you said you went to school, I doubt it."

This is very wrong you also are not talking like someone that pass through a college.

12 DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE

Most husbands do want to correct in the heat of anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct, it will yield little or no result.

13 GIVE A HELPING HAND

The best way to correct is to lead by example, step into the kitchen to give a helping hand, don't just sit in the front of the television correcting what goes on in the kitchen.

Wives are doing a great job, appreciate yours and support her to be better wife and mother.

IF YOU EXPECTS YOUR WIFE TO BE AN ANGEL IN YOUR LIFE, THEN YOU SHOULD FIRST CREATE A HEAVEN FOR HER✅✅✅✅✅

WHEN SOMEONE IS FOR YOU

 When Something Is For You!

1.. When someone is for you, you won't feel the need to beg, convince, or force. Things will feel easeful, grounded, and safe.

2.. When someone is for you, it will not make you question or second guess your worth.

 3.. Instead, it will remind you how worthy and loved you truly are.

4.. When someone is for you, it will feel healthy and supportive-not toxic or destructive.

5.. When someone is for you, it will not run or hide or avoid being yours. You do not have to chase after anything or anyone.

6.. When someone is for you, it will bring clarity and alignment to your life, not chaos and confusion.

10 SIGNS OF A TRUE GIRLFRIEND 💌🤝💐🌹

 10 SIGNS OF A TRUE GIRLFRIEND 💌🤝💐🌹

1. True girlfriends are very jealous. If you are dating them, don't even flirt with another girl. (It hurts them a lot). 💛🤍💜💓💓💖♥️💘

2. They act like they are very matured on the first outing. But once they are free with you, believe me, they will give you headache. (They do so because they trust you).  💕💌💘♥️💖

3. They don't need your money. Your sincerity to them matters a lot (that does not mean you won't buy something for them).  🌹💐🌼💮🌻💮🌺

4. They get angry for every little reason. They just want to hear that word "I'm sorry "(it means a lot to them). 🥂🍲🌮🥙

5. If they love you, they love you for real. But if they hate you, just forget it (go and download another love elsewhere). 🍓🍇🍎🍒

6. They don't cheat (these ones are wife material, but very rare).  🌸🌺🥀💫🌙🙈

7. They Slay but they don't smoke, they drink little, they like clubbing little, once once.🍁🌻🌺🥀😘

8. They have the heart of an egg, easily broken (so don't hurt them).🙈💐💋😘❣️

9. They help in planning your future with you because they want the best for you (marry them). 💐💋✨💋💕🥀

10. They love when you hug them, kiss them deeply and whisper to their ears "I LOVE YOU ".

🥰🤍💞😘🥀🕊️

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10 RULES EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD FOLLOW IF HE WANTS A HAPPY MARRIAGE

 10 RULES EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD FOLLOW IF HE WANTS A HAPPY MARRIAGE

If you want a successful marriage, there are principles you should follow as a husband.

Check them out below

1. If you want a successful marriage, you should avoid taking your wife for granted. A good husband honours and respects him wife. A good husband won’t belittle his wife and treat her as an inferior being.

2. If you want a successful marriage, your wife should be your number one priority not your father, mother, brothers, sisters or any blood relative. You can’t have a successful marriage if you don’t make your wife your priority.

3. If you want a successful marriage, you should frequently tell your wife how much you love her and show her through your actions too. You make her feel loved and valued when you always tell her you love her.

4. Do not stop dating your wife after marriage. Many men see marriage as a goal accomplished and stop giving their wife the attention they gave her while dating her. Your wife wants the chase to continue after marriage. Keep doing all the sweet things you did while dating her.

5. If you want your marriage to be a success, you should keep to your words. Failed promises can destroy a marriage. When you keep to your words as a husband, you earn your wife’s trust.

6. No woman wants a husband with roving eyes. If you want to have a successful marriage, your eyes should be on your wife alone. Many failed marriages are a result of unfaithful husbands. Your wife should be the most beautiful woman in the world in your eyes.

7. Many husbands fail to see things from their wife’s perspective and this is wrong. If you want your marriage to be a success, you should make an effort to see things from your wife’s point of view. It’s wrong as a husband to act like you know it all. Wise husbands try to see things from their wife’s perspective.

8. You are expected as a husband to satisfy the emotional needs of your wife. You are expected as a husband to kiss your wife every morning before you leave for work and when you get back home. You are also expected to meet her needs in the bedroom.

9. Be generous with your wife when it comes to money. Whether your wife works or not, you are expected as a man to provide for her. Stop being a stingy husband. There’s nothing wrong with spending some of your hard-earned money on your wife. She deserves it.

10. If you want a successful marriage, you should help your wife with house chores. Help her in the kitchen, tidy the bedroom, run errands for her and cook for her. Doing this won’t make you less of a man.

SINGLE MOTHER LISTEN AND READ THIS::::

 Single mother's listen;

If a man says he loves you, he is crazy about you but he can't deal with your kids, shoot him out of your life very fast. Sometimes, I don't really understand women. That you are in love doesn't mean your brain should go on suspension. 

A man tells you he loves you, he wants to marry you and at the end of the day he says he can't deal with your kids. How can a man says he loves you and he can't love your children. He can't love your daughter. 

He can't love your son and you stupidly enter such relationship. You are even fighting your children over a man that can't love you with your kids. Who did this to your destiny Hun? Do you know if you accept a relationship with a man who doesn't honor and love your kids listen to what you have just done.

 You betrayed yourself. You betrayed your kids and those kids, their head will fight you. This is one of the biggest mistakes a lot of women make. 

Once they are in love, their brain is suspended. Any man that loves you and hate your kids should never be allowed into your life. 

To whom brain is given, sense is expected.

🙏

TO THE LADIES:::

 TO THE LADIES:

Few things you should never do just to keep a man

1.Never lie to keep a relationship because when the truth comes out it will make a fool of you

2.Never pretend to keep a relationship because when your real character comes out it will put you to shame

3. Never use money to keep a relationship because when the money stops coming it will put pain in your heart.

4. Never use pregnancy to keep a relationship because it will put you in single motherhood

5. Never use sex to keep a relationship because when he is tired of you He will call you cheap...

WHY WOMEN SAYING: GOOD MEN HARD TO FIND

 Most women keep saying, "Good Men are hard to find. WRONG!

The TRUTH is that good Men aren't hard to find, they are just hard to entice and win over.

Good Men aren't hard to find, it is just hard to get their attention. The thing is....Good Men are not easily enticed and don't respond to all these cosmetic looks that women throw. 

Don't get it all wrong here....

Such men notice such things, but they dont make decisions to pursue a woman based on such things. 

So...

- wearing some tight clothes

-Showing off your Cleavage

-Winding your Behind

-Posting drama on facebook

May get you the attention of an Ordinary Man, but they won't land you a Man of Substance.

To attract the attention of a "Good Man", you will have to work harder than that.

How about showing off...

-your Character instead of your Cleavage

-your Brains instead of your "Behind" and

-your love for God instead of your love for Clothes.

To get the attention of a Good Man, be more STRATEGIC than BEAUTIFUL

And You must be Born again and be A Prayerful wife

DEAR COUPLES HEAR THIS

 Dear couples...✍🏾

When you're in a relationship you re going to argue alot. 

You re going to have trust issues, jealousy, break-ups & even make-ups.

Yes, you going to cry, fight, have haters, & even people that's trying break you up !!! 

Ex's calling saying they want you back, boring conversations and heated arguments & hurtful words being said that you don't even mean. 

But no matter what you go through, no matter what people think or say about you, always be there for each other, loving, caring, understanding, communicating and forgiving each other's wrongdoings.

Above all, put God first and ask for directions through prayers...Because true love isn't easy & easy love isn't true.

NEVER FORCE A RELATIONSHIP

 Never force a relationship.

Sometimes it's better to move on, than to hold on to a person who doesn't understand who you truly are. Unfortunately there will be times where your absence will teach you what your presence cannot.

You need to stop breaking your own heart in trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn't meant to work to begin with. 

You can't force someone to genuinely care about you. 

You can't force someone to be faithful to you.

You can't force someone to be the person you need

them to be.

The truth is, sometimes the person you want the most is the same person you would be best without.

You have got to understand some things are meant to come into your life, just not meant to stay.

Everything that you do to show love, you have to be

careful, not to lose yourself by trying to fix what should never been there in the first place. You can't get the relationship you need from someone who's not ready to reciprocate the love you give to them.

I know it's hard when you meet someone and your heart feels, that's the person you could spend an eternity with, and you start to accept that they are not that person you thought they needed to be.

And no matter how many times you cry yourself to sleep at night, you will eventually heal from your previous relationship and find the one you have always longed for. Your future will now bring an understanding of why things didn't work out in your previous relationships.

One thing I have learned throughout the years, is “It is better to be single than to be in a relationship settling for less.”

If they see you as an option, then they don't deserve to be a priority in your life.

Take my advice and never chase someone who's not chasing you.

WHEN A PERSON TRULY LOVES YOU

 WHEN A PERSON TRULY LOVES YOU

1) They Ask You How Your Day Was, And Are Truly Interested In The Answer

2) They Are Hurt When You Are Hurt. They Hate To See You Suffering & Unhappy.

3) They Care About Your Happiness & Wellbeing, And Consider Your Feelings When Making Deviations.

4) They Listen To What’s  Bothering You, And Try To Be Supportive  & Helpful.

5) They Would Never Risk Losing You, By Being Unfaithful Or Disloyal.

6) They Would Compromise & Negotiate Situations, And Make Sure Your Feelings Are Considered ,When Making Decisions .

7) They Tell You They Love You, And They Show You In All The Ways They Treat You.♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

Don't substitute lust or infatuation for love.

14 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH YOU

 14 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH YOU

1. BE PEACEFUL

People find themselves coming back to where they find peace

2. MEET YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS

When your spouse knows that from you, their sexual and emotional needs are met, they will keep coming back

3. BE APPRECIATIVE

Celebrate your spouse, show that you value him/her. People go where they are celebrated, not tolerated 

4. ADD VALUE

When your spouse is with you, let him/her leave better, wiser, more refreshed, lighter, happier than they were before. Be that person who adds value to your spouse's purpose and quality of day

5. DO NOT BE JUDGEMENTAL

Refrain from being one who makes conclusive statements such as "You always do this and that" or looking at your spouse differently when he/she does something that doesn't sit right with you or opens up to you about something unpleasant. People avoid environments of judgment

6. BE GOOD AT TOUCHING

Learn how to touch your spouse, how he/she loves being held. Your spouse will keep coming for the touch

7. AVOID FIGHTS

Have control over your temper, know how to deescalate things. Not every disagreement should result into a fight. Avoid drama

8. DON'T COMPLAIN YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT SPENDING TIME WITH YOU

The mistake many make is to attack and complain to their spouse about how he/she no longer makes time. This pushes your spouse away instead of inviting your spouse

9. TALK ABOUT WHAT HE/SHE LIKES

Learn your spouse's favourite topics and engage. It will keep you from being boring

10. BE FUN

Don't take life too seriously, don't suck the air in the room, don't be negative. Respond to your spouse's naughtiness, flirting and playful nature. Fun is inviting 

11. BE A GOOD LISTENER

People go where they feel heard. Don't dominate conversations. Show your spouse his/her thoughts, opinions and stories matter 

12. COMMUNICATE THAT YOU MISS YOUR SPOUSE 

Let your spouse know how great a time you two have together. It will make your spouse feel important

MEN HEAR THIS

 Men hear this;

If a woman is available to you, anytime you call, she is there, anytime you need her presence she is there, you text her, she replies. You call her, she picks. She is 100% committed to you, available to you, don't take that kind of woman for granted because sometimes, it is when we loose the best that is when we now realize that will actually give attention to the loss. Don't loose a good woman that is always available. The fact that she is constant and always available to you doesn't mean she is cheap. It doesn't mean that she doesn't have what she is doing, just that she created a space in her heart for you.

The day that good woman turns her back on you, you will understand that hot water is different from cold water. 

To whom brain is given, sense is expected. That she is available doesn't mean she is cheap. Take advantage by loving that good woman with your life because good women are scarce.

Peace🖐️🖐️🖐️

FEW SIGNS YOU ARE IN A WRONG RELATIONSH

 FEW SIGNS YOU ARE IN A WRONG RELATIONSHIP.

1) if you feel rejection and disrespect : let go !

2) if he / she always find fault or ways to blame you in any little argument : my dear , let go .

3) excessive demand and expenses: let go !

4) lies and personal secret: let go!

5) if you don't feel secure and comfortable: let go!

6) 1,2,3 years , he / she , hid or refuse to introduce you to his or her parents, love ones and coworkers: let go !

7) if the person always talk about, my ,my ,my , in his or her emphasis , my dear you're not in his / her mind : let go!

If the person is a thief, womaniser , jealous, gossip, malice person: please let go.

8) if the person is an acholic or smoker  : let go .

9) if the person keep bad company or communication : let go!

MEN AND WOMEN MENTALITY

 When life favours some people, they begin to think others are stüpid. They think others are not well trained.

One fact about life is that we learn everyday. Life has a way of humbling everyone.

I have seen a mother who used to criticize other people's children, recently her child got pregnant out of wedlock, since then she has been quiet, worse enough her good son has turned out to be a junky...

You can brag about good values till the opposite happens to you.

It's about grace and mercies of the Creator of the universe helping you and your family, not about bragging.

If you brag, when life hits you, you can become everything you once criticized.

Being a single mother is not a crime, most of them were victims of circumstance.

Being Married while your mates are still single doesn't mean you should mock others....your time and theirs aren't the Same.

Having many Children while others who got married same year with are still struggling to concieve should not make you to brag .. remember it's not by your power.

Graduating from school, buying a car 🚗, building Houses when your mates are still struggling to start up in life should not makes you to boast, brag or look down on them. you've got all these because it's your time to shine...they own time is coming.

Be kind and stop judging people just because they're not the same as you because you've never walked in their shoes . life is mirageous and filled with uncertainties 🙏

On repeat...Don't judge any circumstance you haven't experienced because when life hits you, you can become everything you once criticized.

12 THINGS TO SAY NO TO IN YOUR MARRIAGE

 12 THINGS TO SAY NO TO IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Say NO to going to bed with unresolved issues. The longer issues pile up the messy things become and the climate in your home worsens 

2. Say NO to involving parents or family in solving marital matters. Instead, see a counsellor, a pastor or a neutral person of authority who believes in marriage if you can't manage a breakthrough as a couple. Parents and family are biased and after you two have solved issues, they will remember the wrongs done to their son/daughter and it will affect family relations. Minimise the amount of people involved in your domestic affairs 

3. Say NO to coming to big decisions without giving the other an opportunity to be heard and considered. This is how to build unity 

3. Say NO to using the words "My" in marriage. "My car", "My child", "My house", "My money"... Instead say "Our car", "Our child", "Our house", "Our money" regardless of who contributes the most financially. You two are a team 

4. Say NO to arguing in front of the children. Don't expose them to tension that will emotionally stress them

5. Say NO to ending a sexual moment with only one of you sexually satisfied. Both of you ought to enjoy love making 

6. Say NO to using insults no matter how angry you get. Your spouse will easily remember the insults spoken in moments of anger than the loving words spoken in times of peace 

7. Say NO to eating outside yet your spouse has taken the time to prepare a family meal for you. Make it a habit to eat together 

8. Say NO to visits by your relatives without informing your spouse. It is not your home alone. If you want your spouse to be a good host to your relatives, consult with him/her when the visit will happen and for how long 

9. Say NO to entertaining another or flirting with others. You two are allowed to have a healthy social life and friends even of the opposite gender but with boundaries and transparency 

10. Say NO to sleeping in different beds/rooms yet you are in the same house. It sets a bad precedence and escalates the situation. Be like "Honey, we didn't have the best of days today but I still love you". You walking out to sleep somewhere else or kicking your spouse out of the room communicates rejection and disgust 

11. Say NO to letting a relative come stay in your house who disrespects your spouse. Don't let your spouse be attacked at home 

12. Say NO to suggesting divorce when things get difficult. You don't solve problems by threatening to walk out. When you tell your spouse divorce is an option it can easily discourage your spouse or make your spouse defensive. Unfortunately, some ask for a divorce not because they are serious but to scare and manipulate and in so doing planting seeds of doubt in their marriage